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Monday, March 30th, 2009
1:43 pm
Hiroe Terryo!
Thank you to terryo and and hiroe  who are this group's new moderators! I have taken myself off, after I realized how much has been, and could be going on and I am just not doing what needs to be done to get here.

I will continue to post just as haphazardly and randomly as I ever have, and be glad to see it's in good hands.

Love to all!

9:00 am
Bad Moderator
Hello, my name is Erica, and I am a bad moderator.

I am so sorry. I have totally abandoned this group and I feel really bad about it. I was a single, childfree poly person hith no job and a lot of time on her hands when I started this group, and felt the need for there to be somewhere for other single, childfree poly people to complain or rejoice the way I did.

Since then, I went back to school, got married (to a man who has part time children. It hasn't changed my mind, but the complaining has to be kept to a dull roar. I may not like/want/need/accept children's exsistence, but that doesn't mean I want them to grow up to be self loathing serial killers hell bent on revenge either.) And life got in the way of my maintenance and support plans.

Someone else wandered over to my own journal ewysiwyg and let me know there was a spammer over here, so for that, I am very grateful. Please, do let me know when this place gets all cobwebby and spraypainted on, and I wil do my best to come back over and shoo out the vagrants. I may not live in this neighborhood anymore, but I have such fond memories of the place, and I don't want to see a meth lab go up. If someone else thinks they may even READ this journal even once a week, so they are better adept at mderating, I would gladly pass it along.

I'm a bad moderator. Accepting it is the first step. Changing that may be too many more steps than I am willing to accept any time soon. *is very lazy*
Monday, August 25th, 2008
8:21 pm
Hey - There's not often much activity on this list.. so.. um.. ~poke~
Hi there other cute poly childfree people!!

I was just wondering where other folks are hailing from and perhaps.. a bit of how being Childfree affects your being poly (or vice versa, poly affecting your childfreeness)? 

Hubby, Grrlfriend and I are all from the PA / Philly area. Hubby & Girlfriend are sterilized, i'm on BC and kinda naturally sterile because of PCOS (yay!)(kinda). 

Being childfree tends to affect the sweeties i look to date. I certainly won't have a Primary partner who desires sprogs, and thus far i've avoided having any sweeties with chitlins. I just feel that being a parent means your child is your Primary.. and if i'm getting involved with the adult, then by happenstance there will be a relationship with their child as well..and i don't need all that added in. 

Anywho.. Hi!  Chime in if you'd like to :)
11:12 am
Friend of joeshark and fellow childfree-er. Where are all of the childfree people in Indy?

Current Mood: excited
Sunday, August 24th, 2008
9:55 pm
Hey everybody!

New to the community! Had to yell!

-Mick :)

Current Mood: hopeful
Thursday, July 31st, 2008
6:57 pm
No Kidding!
So, I may be late to the party here, but a couple of months ago I discovered a group called No Kidding! which is a social group that sponsers email and group social outings for adults who have never had children.  They do not discriminate against people who eventualy *want* children, membership requires only that you have not had kids yet.   

The first paragraph of their About Us page says:

NO KIDDING! is an all-volunteer, non-profit social club for adult couples and singles who, for whatever reason, have never had children. It is not a business or a dating service. We rely on all of our  members to volunteer some of their time to organize our activities. NO KIDDING! is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, business, organization or institution, does not engage in any controversy, and neither endorses nor opposes any cause. We are a social club -- nothing more, nothing less.

They have many local chapters.  I've joined the two nearest chapters to me, but they do not seem to be very active.  Other chapters seem to have more activity.  But I thought I'd let ya'll know about it if you don't already.

Wednesday, July 9th, 2008
1:42 pm
Wednesday, June 18th, 2008
12:44 pm
Tuesday, April 22nd, 2008
2:28 pm
I do NOT want kids . com !! (100% Free CHILDFREE Dating site)

*I do NOT want kids . com !!  (100% Free CHILDFREE Dating site)

The world's only 100% free CHILDFREE dating site for the select few that do NOT have or want kids:


Child free dating.  Instant full membership.  No games. 

( Just my way of trying to find, and helping others like me, find  someone on this planet that does NOT have or want kids. )

Saturday, April 5th, 2008
1:42 pm
New Male Birth Control Pill
That's right, it's not just science-fiction or wishful thinking anymore:


""We have been trying to develop a non-surgical male contraceptive for ten years now. The contraceptive works through an injection that affects the sperm's ability to fertilise. Simultaneously, we have also invented an antidote which guarantees its immediately reversibility."

I am looking forward to its full disclosure at this convention to more fully understand it's success rate and side effects.    


Thanks to a comment in one of the other places I posted this, here's a link for more detailed information of how it works.  A very, very simple explanation is that it electrifies the vas deferens so that sperm gets blasted apart as it travels through on its way out.

That's WAY cool!

Current Mood: hopeful
Thursday, February 21st, 2008
3:07 am
As many of you might know, I am the creator of Stagehand Tees.  It has primarily backstage-related t-shirts, but it also has a non-tech section with t-shirts that I just like that have nothing to do with the industry.  Well, the number of poly-themed shirts is growing so large, that I had to create Poly Tees to accomodate!

So, please come on by and check it out!  Poly-themed t-shirts with our new variation on the PolyDragon, our own version of the Heart/Infinity, the Poly Formula, and a bunch of humorous non-monogamous t-shirts!

Please feel free to spread the word! 

Thursday, February 7th, 2008
5:51 pm
Oral Sex causes Oral Cancers in Men and Women
Taken from </a></b></a>serolynne's LJ and not hidden under a cut because it's important that everyone read it:

The HPV virus doesn't just affect the woman's body by increasing the risks for cervical cancers. But studies are starting to show that HPV is causative to oral cancer's in men (and presumably women too).. from yup, you guessed it.. oral sex. And it's now as common a cause as tobacco and alcohol.


Remember, when a woman has mild cervical dysplasia, she is very actively shedding the virus. If you give unprotected oral sex to her, you are basically bathing your mouth and throat in juices laden with HPV shedding. The mouth and throat are similar tissue types as the cervix.

I've long suspected this, and thus why I've always drastically altered my sexual practices when dealing with an active HPV infection.

Please pass this on to everyone you know, particularly those who participate in multiple partnerships, and feel free to repost in any forum or journal. 

Tuesday, February 5th, 2008
8:25 pm
FPR 2008 Coming Up Soon!

 Don't forget, the Florida Poly Retreat is coming up March 27-30!  We have a great retreat planned.  Anita Wagner is our keynote speaker (check her out at http://www.practicalpolyamory.com), and we have some awesome presentations scheduled on things like:

Tuesday, January 8th, 2008
1:13 pm
FPR 2008

The Florida Poly Retreat (FPR) is a regional level polyamory retreat/conference started in 2003 organized by the polyamory communities of Florida.   This year, FPR will be held on March 27-30. 

12:04 pm
Poly Book Club

I just wanted to let everyone know about the poly-themed online book club.  You can check it out and join at http://www.shelfari.com/groups/12041/about (it's free to join).  Our first assignment was to ask for (or obtain, if you don't do gift exchange) any poly-themed book you haven't read yet and let us know what book that was by January 5th.  But there's still time for this assignment, because January 15th is when we're going to talk about what these books are.  I started by requesting "The High Cost Of Living" by Marge Piercy from my local library.  It just arrived today, so I'm going to get to reading it so I'll have something to talk about on the 15th!  Here's what my choice has to say on the back:

"For Leslie, the heroine of this searching novel, the cost of living - and loving - is getting higher and higher.  First of all, she is miserable for having lost her lover, Valerie, to another woman.  And she has begun to doubt just about everything about her life.  Now she is involved in a strange erotic triangle with Honor, an adolecent virgin who has romantic ideals and Bernie, a homosexual street hustler trying to settle down.  Leslie and Bernie both want Honor.  They also want each other.  But all Honor wants is a little spice in her life.  Here is a powerful searing novel of three young dreamers caught up in a lifestyle they can neither accept nor change."

Can't wait to hear about everyone else's choices!

Starting in February, we plan to make the assignments more traditional - meaning everyone will be requested to read the same book and we'll all get together online to discuss it.

Hope to see ya'll there! 

Wednesday, January 24th, 2007
10:54 am
Greetings to all
Just happened across this comm through my wifeys LJ and joined up. I am definitely childfree with no regrets and actively searching for loves to share this litle trip around the sun with us.

It is SO hard to meet people that are both poly AND cf. Most can semi-absorb one or the other (with extreme difficulty most times), but both seems to be a bit much for the common folk to handle. It's strange, they all envy how I am but can't seem to take the plunge and actually BE like me.

So take a look at my info and LJ if ya wanna know more about me. I don't believe in F-locking my posts, so nothing is hidden. It is who and what I am, without apology. Feel free to ask questions or friend me, I could use some friends of like mind! :)

Glad to meet yas. *bows*

Current Mood: okay
Tuesday, December 19th, 2006
8:33 am
It's Been A Long Time Baby
I know there is probably no one on this list.

I created it, and I have no idea why, since I frankly did not want to moderate it, and had no intention of starting little conversations that were supposed to lead anywhere meaningfully.

But I did have a thought about it, and I am putting it out to the universe.

Childfree and Poly. It was already so specified a group . . . but still, I wish I had somehow magically turned it into a dating community.

I am so sick of belonging to any of the singles, chat-up, dating services online.

It doesn't matter how many times I mention in my profile that I do not, and will not date a man who lives at home with his children, I still get a hundred responses from men who's profiles say things like "I don't love anyone like I love Little Billy, seen here in our home."

It's weird enough being poly on a singles board. It's hard to explain poly sometimes--but it's much harder to explain when you are single.

"Yes, I find in myself an ability to love and responsibly maintain relationships with more than one person. No, I am not seeing anyone else. Yes, that does mean that I will keep looking after we hook up." *sigh*

As if monogomous people stop dating other people after the first date, on the presumption that this one is The One.

So if there are still available polyamorous childfree men on this panel, feel free to come hit on me.

Because this frustrated huffy look is SOO attractive on me, right? :D

Moderator Erica
Monday, November 13th, 2006
12:16 am
Poly Project
I have mentioned my polyamory project on my personal LJ a few times but instead of being able to meet with all the people who have volunteered to be interviewed, I have created an online survey. This means strangers can fill it out, too! It eases the process for me, since it will track the data anonymously, and I think it will be easier on those who wish to participate because it is anonymous and doesn't have to be done in person. I hope that my questions are useful and inoffensive. Please do not answer any that cross your boundaries, of course. Also, feel free to hand this around to anyone who is poly friendly- or not, I suppose, as their input is also valuable when painting a picture of the discrimination that polyamorous people face.

Just to make the purpose of this clear: I am going to be doing a presentation in my Culture and Identity class on 12/12 to a room full of future psychotherapists, and I am hoping that I can increase their awareness and support for the poly community in receiving services and advocacy.

Click here to take the survey. Thank you!

Note: there are 2 pages, the next button is at the bottom. the second section is really the more important one (meant for non-poly people too), but does take more time and is more personal. many thanks!

I'm noticing that many people are skipping the essay questions. is it just too much? should i try and make them multiple choice somehow? any ideas?
Saturday, April 22nd, 2006
8:28 pm
*Waves Hello*
Wow, excited to find this community.I have been poly and childfree for a while, but have not actively identified as either. I didn't suspect this place existed, but it only makes sense.

I'm 23, living in the Bay Area (California), in a 5 year relationship with my "primary" (don't really like that word, but don't know what else to call him). I find that we're usually the youngest couple in the local poly community by about 10 years, which is interesting.

Big props to the moderator who posted in the community info that "poly is a fluid thing" -- I hate the narrow definitions of what it means to be polyamorous. Just like mono relationships have different boundaries, so do poly relationships. I would traditionally be identified as a "swinger" by the mainstream poly community, because my partners are primarily friends who become lovers. I tend to avoid heavily enmeshed emotional relationships. Just because I don't love everyone I see, doesn't mean I don't care about my lovers (which is what I think what "swinging" implies).

So, the childfree thing... I, for example, would not see another couple who had kids. A funny thing happens with poly relationships from time to time -- they blow up into a bloody emotional mess. I wouldn't want kids to be a part of that. I just find it incompatible with the lifestyle to have children.
Saturday, January 7th, 2006
10:02 pm

Take a peek:


it's well worth a watch ;-)

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